Meeting a Soul Connection

I want to write today about my own experience with a soul connection. It has taken me a while to build up the courage to write about this. It was a crucial relationship in my life and one that ultimately led me to undertake the healing work as prescribed by my teacher.

Although my spiritual curiosity had been alive for years already, the need to really heal only came at the end of this relationship. I would guess that for most people, facing the necessity to really work on their spiritual/energetic side only comes when conditions within become largely intolerable… and so it was for me.

However… This post is not about the end, it is about the beginning, it is about meeting a soul connection, and a summary of our relationship. I will also discuss my feelings and observations on soul connections in another post.

It happened in the beautiful country of Costa Rica.

I had visited this country a couple of years beforehand while I was working on a yacht, I was hooked. I had made a few friends with locals, and I had also heard that there were various Ayahuasca retreats here.

I had left my career at sea. I didn’t know at the time but it would be forever. I was young and reasonably well off. In fact I had hoped to find some little plot of land there. It’s strange what dreams and mad plans we all have. Within my spiritual work I have had to submit to greater forces in the universe and become graceful in accepting what she has in store for me. It’s often been quite different to what I have planned, perceived or hoped. But therein is the beauty and the mystery. I would say that every situation I have been in has been for my learning and growth and I don’t expect any more that this will end.

I spent at least a couple of months doing the regular traveller thing. It was a beautiful luxury to be truly footloose for a while. I have always valued work, not only as a source of income but also as a way to learn, grow and experience. Therefore I decided to do a bit of volunteering at a secluded organic farm on the Osa peninsula which bordered the Corcovado National park. Here I met some very interesting characters, one of whom not only gave me the name of an Ayahuasca retreat but also led me eventually to the town where I would meet this soul connection.

It fascinates me how people and relationships seem to be methods by which the universe uses to teach us, lead us and grow us. I don’t know how that all works but I suspect underneath it all, energy is at work, attracting us to our next destination.

I believe that energy certainly pushed me to make a move that, under normal circumstances, I’d be too shy to do. I was at the local beach bar that was one of the main social hubs for the “extranjeros” in the town. Some mellow music was playing and I saw her on the dance floor, wrapped in the music and just swaying. I felt a great and instantaneous draw to her and so, surprisingly even to me, immediately went over to join her. It was strange we just embraced and started dancing together. And that was it… We became friends, and lovers and we spent many happy days in that town.

She owned a business in Canada and needed to return, she Invited me to come and join her there and we temporarily parted. I had unfinished business in Costa Rica, namely my first Ayahuasca retreat. This powerful plant medicine revealed some interesting insights to me and helped me to decide that the right thing to do was to join the woman I had met.

That is how one of the most powerful connections I have known started. I really don’t know where to begin with any details or how much I really need to divulge. It’s sufficient to say that with who I was back then, who she was, our soul connection and joint karma; the relationship was sometimes an unbalanced one and I found much of it extremely difficult.

In short, it shook me to my core. I experienced love and lust like I had not before but also anger in monumental proportions. I look back at it now and wonder how we managed almost 5 years together. We had fun, we worked hard together, we were both aware that we had a soul connection. We could feel it and we had also been told both by an astrologer and it was certainly hinted to me in one of the many visions I had on the Ayahuasca retreat.

I will probably use this relationship as a reference a few more times in my blog… I want to talk about soul connections more and I definitely want to share a bit more about Ayahuasca and "Plant Medicine".

To sum up this post however, I want to say that meeting a soul connection is powerful, but I want to give a balanced view. You see I am once again in a relationship with a soul connection. This time it is powerful but peaceful, calm (mostly LOL) and nourishing. The one I wrote about in this post was hectic and unstable. I wonder how these connections can lead to wildly different experiences. They do though, and if we meet what we believe to be a soul connection, I’d say that it would be unwise to enter that relationship just looking for love and bliss. I would venture that the universe uses these connections sometimes to expose areas within you that need work. Ultimately, if you do that work then I believe every soul connection relationship could potentially lead to the deep and unifying love we are all seeking.

Back then I did NOT do the work. My monster wouldn’t let me. I was too deep in my own crap and couldn’t see what I needed to do. Therefore the relationship broke down. Even early on in my current relationship, my anger threatened to destabilise us. The difference now is that I’ve been taught how to work it out and release it using some of the tools I will write about in this blog.

As I’m fond of saying when I write, I’m not done yet, I haven’t realised perfection or constant bliss… I don’t think those states really exist. What I am seeing though is how working on ones energy and emotional self assists in relationships. Not just within soul connections or romantic relationships but in any. I have certainly seen most of mine improve and, sadly, some just fall away.

As always the start of it was me being prepared to do the work and take responsibility. To push through the unpleasant feelings and just keep trying. I would say that of all the rewards, now being in a safe, healthy, secure and independent relationship is one of the greatest.