Orgasm and energy work

I didn’t start writing this blog to write about sex. However, the one article I did write “Supplements for Men” has got the most views so far. I guess that shows me that people are generally more interested in sex than spiritual work and healing. That's OK by me, because sex IS spiritual and it IS moving of energy and it IS healing. So, maybe I can connect the dots and make a few more people out there equate sex to energetic healing. How I intend to do this is by discussing some observable changes I have had in my sexual responses since starting my healing work.

I will write more about what I mean by “spiritual”, but here I will just say that it is the management and balance of energy within the physical body. A balanced flow is what we aim for and we can’t achieve this very well if we have physical or emotional trauma as this will impede the flow of energy through the body. Therefore we must attend to our emotions first and foremost. This subject is covered extensively in the “Real Healing” part of my blog.

Back to the fun stuff… These are a few things that I’ve observed:

I’m less self conscious and more present

Not that that was ever a great problem. I’ve always been reasonably confident as a lover. However, since I’ve worked on disabling the monster (that nasty little voice that makes our lives a struggle) I’d say I was more relaxed when it comes to intimate time with my partner. This is especially helpful if things aren’t flowing too well, I can stay conscious and objective, move with the moment, try different things and communicate better. This makes sex a little more fluid and more enjoyable for both of us. The monster is a control freak and a perfectionist, if we listen to this thing then it can equate to nightmares in the bedroom.

I would say that most men have ideas of what they want, how they want their partners to be etc. but we can’t expect our partners to be perfect or fulfil every whim or desire. The monster will be telling us they should do this/behave like that, but when we disengage from these thoughts, intimacy expands, expectations fall away and then lovers can actually meet each-other openly during love-making.

The monster is a great distraction in all walks of life. It takes us out of the present moment. And that’s where we need to be, especially I would say as lovers. We need to be conscious and present. It is the one time most of us get to be so close and connected to another human being.

Most of us have at least a bit of insecurity when it comes to sex. This may stem from trauma or judgements coming from the monster. It can be off putting if our partners are stressing about other matters when it comes to making love. This could be something seemingly small like the extra kilo they put on from holidays, or some deeper trauma like an abuse they suffered at the hands of an ex. Perhaps sometimes it is performance anxiety. Whatever it is, learning tools to disempower the monster and manage ones energy is likely to have beneficial effects on ones sex life.

I’m more responsive to my partners touch

I can’t really explain this one, so I wont try. What I’ve noticed is that I’ve become slightly less “penis-centric”. In other words, it’s not all about my cock any more. I get a much stronger erotic response, lets say if my partner touches my feet, or runs her fingernails lightly down my back. I actually get enjoyable jolts of energy running through my body. I don’t believe this would happen so easily unless I had been working on my energy in the way I have been.

I can last longer in Bed

I’ve reached a point recently where orgasm is more of a choice than a reflex reaction. Of course I mostly choose it because they too have become even more deep and pleasurable. I’ll come back to my point of being more aware of ones energy and responses. Now when climax seems to be approaching I can slow down or change positions and be aware of where my partner is at. It’s no longer an orgasm orientated affair. This means I can be sure that my partner is satisfied before finishing myself.

Better orgasms

So, yeah, they just got better!! I have no idea how far I can go with this but I definitely want to experiment more. I’ve recently been reminded that men can also be multi-orgasmic so well worth following up, but I’m not there just yet. Orgasms now are more of a whole body experience (a good one anyhow), I feel more of a rush throughout my body, rather than being confined to the genitals.

I have been taught of two main energies in the body; fire chi and water chi. I would say that as the monster is disabled and emotional trauma is released, these energies flow better through the body. I can’t say which one is flowing during orgasm but I would hazard a guess that it’s fire chi as this is the one that governs lust and sexuality. It is also a very healing energy as it can literally burn through energetic blockages. I’m guessing that this was well known at some stage of human existence. For example the Hindus who developed Tantra knew this and hence love-making became an art, and the longer they sustained it the more healing benefits would come. I find it truly sad that most of us have lost a lot of this knowledge in this modern age.

Stronger ejaculation

I left this one till last because a) it fascinates me and b) ejaculation is actually a separate process to orgasm. True, they tend to happen at the same time but apparently they don’t have to. One for another post I reckon.

Now how shall I put this… Ejaculation, for me anyhow, was a fairly underwhelming affair. A standard teaspoon amount of semen, pumped reasonably harmlessly from my member. Nothing to really write home about (odd use of that phrase in this context, but anyhow). Now after a couple of years of this energy work I started to notice a difference, especially if I was very turned on and my fire chi running high. I started to actually spray, nay blast the cum from my cock. If I was on my own I seriously though about wearing protective goggles! Lol.

Now the thing that gets me is this, I didn’t do any particular work to increase the strength of my PC muscles. I do practice yoga but I am not that physically fit. I do occasionally take supplements to assist with the health of my genitals and amount of semen produced (See “Supplements for Men”). None of these were constant though, the only thing that was is the daily practice I do on my energy work.

It’s not my job to know what exactly has happened here. I can only assume that some energetic blockage held in my body has released in the region responsible for orgasm/ejaculation. It’s the only reasonable deduction I can make. Now I would love to know what had happened exactly but sadly these things aren’t always revealed to us when we attend to our energetic self.

The only thing I will say is that the sacral area is a very interesting part of our bodies when it comes to energy. I often feel pain here when I am releasing stuff energetically. It is also the location of what yogis would call the sacral or swadhisthana chakra. This is said to govern our sexual organs and is associated too with the element water. I would link this to water chi also and find it quite unsurprising that my ejaculations themselves are now more fluid, quite literally.

So there we are. A list of benefits that I have observed in my sex life from simply attending to my emotional/energetic self. Yes, it is a challenging path, but there truly are some real rewards for walking that path, and if better sex doesn’t entice you to find out more, then I don’t quite know what will!